Love is everywhere. You just have to know where to look. Spoiler alert? Look in the mirror.
This month is a big month at Arctic Fox. Since we decided to donate 100% of revenue from our online sales to charities that are helping with animals (particularly those aiding in rescue efforts in Australia), it got us thinking about how BIG love is. It's more than a relationship, more than family or friends and even more than loving yourself. We're talking about love with a big L. The type of love that makes you care about the planet, the animals, and all of us as a whole. In that sense, your love can be as big as the universe and encompass every living being. How f*ckin dope is that? That type of love connects us all, and it got us thinking about how love is everywhere.
10 common phrases and how they apply to love.
"It be like that sometimes."
No life or love is without challenge. Things don't always work out the way we wish they would. Once you've had your heart broken a few times, hopefully you can look back on those situations and see the upside. The people we fall in love with aren't always meant to be in our lives forever. Sometimes they're here to show us what we DON'T want. Once we see what we DO want, we can envision the type of love we want to embody and bring into our lives. Consider the nightmarish implications of getting everything you wanted when you were younger. Even when it's hard, consider that the universe may be helping you dodge a bullet.
"You did that sh*t."
Have you opened yourself up to other people? Have you been honest when it made you vulnerable? If you have, you've done more than many people. Let's not forget that vulnerability is about courage. As long as you've taken the risk to open your heart to someone, you are DOIN' that shit. So no matter how it turns out (or doesn't turn out) just try to stay brave. Feeling safe enough to express ourselves is about finding people we trust. But without taking the first step in expressing our emotions, we won't know who we CAN trust. There's nothing wrong with keeping your heart to yourself. But if you put yourself out there... you DID that sh*t. And I'm proud of you.
Unfortunately, some people are straight up not a good time. And when you finally realize who they are, it can feel like utter betrayal. A lot of times, we don't know how to respond when other people act in a way that's hurtful. The truth is, no one is entitled to your love and friendship. Your boundaries and your feelings should be respected. If you've communicated what you will not tolerate and someone continues to cross the line, it could be time to cut ties. There are a lot of lovely people out there who will love you for you. And they won't be able to find you if you're busy crying over someone who's being a jerk. Think about it.
"Actions speak louder than words."
Love isn't a feeling, its an ability. Put simply: Love is a verb. And saying the words doesn't make it so. Close your eyes and think about someone you love deeply. Now, think about how you treat them, what you would do for them. When you open your eyes, think about the people in your life. Consider whether or not their actions are in line with yours when you love someone. It can give you clarity. Alternatively, how you talk to and treat yourself should hold up to the same standards. Think about how you care for yourself. Would you treat someone else you loved that way? If not, it's time to rethink your actions. Please take care of you! You are needed.
"You can't judge a book by it's cover"
Judging someone based on their outward persona is something we've all done. It's inevitable and necessary for survival, to an extent. Moreover, we often make up our minds about a situation before we've considered all sides. The next time you find yourself in conflict, I challenge you to put yourself in the other person's position when they display negative emotion. See if you can find a way to understand why they feel the way they do before you react. Then, coming from a place of understanding, communicate truthfully. It can make the difference between a fight or a resolution.
"If the juice is worth the squeeze"
Good stuff is often hard work. Love can be hard work. Loving yourself, forgiving, staying open and remaining vulnerable; none of it is easy. But if you've ever loved, you know it's worth it.If you're unwilling to do the hard stuff when it comes to love, you won't get the good stuff either. Stay authentic, stay open, stay loving yourself. This human business is messy AF and there is no guidebook. All of us are just trying our damndest. But trust us when we say, the juice is worth the squeeze.Alternatively, if you're in a situation where another person is using you, taking from you or treating you in any way that's unkind. It ain't worth it.
"When life gives you lemons."
The saying goes... "when life gives you lemons - make lemonade". Beyonce even made an album about it. In life, we take the good with the bad because it just can't all be good all the time. Let's take this to the next level. Take a moment to reflect and think about how some of your hard times gave you the best things. Can you recall a time you got through only to realize the value of it after the fact? Is it possible that your current struggle could be just as important to your future? Often, our greatest personal development, achievements, and even people come from the most bitter trials. Gratitude will get you everywhere.
"Once in a blue moon"
There are certain moments in life that only come around once in a while. When they do, we try our best to seize those moments. If you have regret over "missing" a chance, remember that blue moons actually come back around pretty regularly. Nothing that's for you will ever pass you by. Maybe the last time you had the chance at love, you weren't ready. Maybe they weren't the right person. Maybe you had something else to accomplish. But trust us, when the right one comes along, you'll be ready. This applies to career opportunities too. If you missed a chance - have confidence that the right thing is on its way to you.
Sh*t happens. When it does, we can rail against circumstances or we can look for what we CAN control. How we respond to situations often defines the next chapter more than the event itself. Have a fiasco on your hands? It's okay to be upset. Just know that the more time you spend lamenting the circumstances, the less time you'll have to recover with your next brilliant move. Smash Mouth told us the years start comin' and they don't stop comin' - so we really shouldn't be wasting time. We all take L's. It's how you recover that makes you who you are. Don't give up.
"Karma is a b*tch"
Simply put: whatever you put out into the world comes back to you. This can be both positive and negative, depending on what you're putting out. If you're like most people, it's probably a little of both. The next time your ego pops up to wish someone something unpleasant, take a moment to access your compassionate nature. If someone cuts you off in traffic, maybe they're in a hurry to see a loved one at the hospital. Remind yourself of the old adage: everyone is fighting a hard battle you know nothing about. Being compassionate will keep you from being sour and it should help you to forgive yourself when you occasionally make a mistake.